Thanks to the COVID-19 pandemic many of us have been stuck at home. All over the globe malls, schools, restaurants, museums, and other meeting places have closed. Many people are working from home because offices have closed down for the safety of their employees.
With all of these closures, this means that you are stuck in the house whether you want to be or not. Stuck with people that you may like or may not like. This is a telling time for many relationships. It is easy to deal with people in passing, but spending every waking moment in the house with them can be difficult.
How do you deal with keeping the peace in your home?
Now more than ever we have to exercise healthy avenues of conflict resolution. I think that the first thing to remember is always love. When we become angry with people we should sit and ask ourselves is it worth hurting the ones that we love? Picking your battles is important. Not everything is worth arguing about.
I was reading one of my favorite books and I think that it was summed up wonderfully.
“Love really is the opposite of all emotion. So, hopes, dreams, positives, goods, bad’s and highs and lows are all not love, they are emotions and therefore fragments of love. Love is the synthesis of all emotion. So, happiness on its own cannot be the outcome of any relationship without it’s correlate opposite. Be aware of any idealization that the purpose of a relationship is an emotional one-sided half-life. If that becomes the objective, honesty, truth, joy, inspiration, and intimacy will evaporate in favour of frustration.”
Finding a New Relationship and Making It Last
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Love comes with being annoyed, being irritated, having to share your space, etc. Those things sound awful right? The truth is, as awful as they sound they are equally as good. This is a two-sided thing. This isn’t just about how the person is affecting you. It’s also about how you are affecting them.
This means that when you annoy someone, when you are irritating, when they have to share their space they still love you too. You have annoying ways too.
The good part of it all is that not only is love the bad part, but it is the good part you see on tv. So often I see people try to invalidate people’s love and to say that if there are issues there can’t be any happiness between them. I believe that where there are issues sometimes there is more happiness. This isn’t always the case, but when you go through something with someone sometimes you come out even stronger and closer.
It is also important to remember space. Everyone needs space. You may not have a lot of space in your home to give, but you can surely allow someone to be in the room alone or step outside and take a walk. It is healthy to have space. If your loved ones need space to be alone try not to take it as rejection.
Although you should remember space, also remember the importance of communication. Space does not mean a lack of communication. There is almost nothing worse than being right next to someone and having an issue and they have no idea. Lack of communication causes misunderstanding. Why have a misunderstanding when it’s not necessary? Use all of this extra time to get to talk to the people around you. The people that you would normally only see in passing due to life’s hectic routine.
The moral of the story is to remember not to sweat the small things. COVID-19 has forced the world to change the way that we live our lives on a regular basis, but with a lil love, space, communication, and faith we are going to make it through this. Hopefully, when this is all over we have stronger relationships with those that we love.